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J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares Volunteer Management Webinar

September 26, 2018 by  
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If you are aspiring to be a Non Profit or are an existing Non Profit; managing your Volunteers is something you have to learn to do well and unfortunately for most non profits…this is not the case.

This webinar will assist in the following:

  1. Obtaining Volunteers and building long term relationships with them.
  2. Developing a strategy that assist in utilizing your Volunteers in positions that bring out the best in them.
  3. Having your Volunteers become your recruitment team for new dedicated Volunteers 

Place your organization on the right path for 2019! Click link referenced below…


J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares Philadelphia Entrepreneurial Empowerment Series

September 22, 2018 by  
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New Beginnings this Saturday…Week 1 of the Philadelphia Entrepreneurial Empowerment Series!

We will begin this series with the question; Which Entity Should I Register My Business?  This is a very important question to ask AND answer before embarking into becoming an Entrepreneur!  Reason being…if not chosen correctly…it can be very costly and time consuming.  These are two things an Entrepreneur cannot afford.  So getting started on the right foot is crucial.

Anyone still interested in joining, Inbox/DM for registration information to start this Saturday.  Enrollment will close Saturday!

J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares The Muslimah Leadership Empowerment Series Week 7: Umm Salamah

September 21, 2018 by  
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FRIDAY…Week 7 of the Muslimah Leadership Empowerment Series for our Delaware Chapter!

This week we will be discussing the life of Umm Salamah…who’s love spanned time and space!  Her life provides soo many gems for us to learn from such as:

  1. Prayer: Do you honor your supplications?
  2. When faithful, what is removed HE will always replace with better!
  3. Being Self Aware and how that can impact positively in your life

Looking forward to co facilitating this class with my student Maysaa!

J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares Delaware Sister’s Empowerment Series Info Session

September 7, 2018 by  
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To my Delaware, Chester, PA and Philly sisters…are you looking for a place to find Spiritual Enlightenment/Encouragement?  Are you looking for a place to find TRUE sisterhood? Are you looking for an environment to focus on JUST you in order to renew and replenish?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, then come out next Friday the 7th and join us at Masjid Kauthar for our first class.  Open Enrollment and Registration will be available before and after class!  Hope to see you there In Shaa Allah (God Willing).  If you know someone who can benefit…Spread the Word and Tag a Friend.

J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares Entrepreneurial Empowerment Series Certificate of Completion Ceremony

September 2, 2018 by  
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The NJ Chapter of J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares will be receiving their Certificate of Completion and Participation in the Entrepreneurial Empowerment Series!

These Entrepreneurs came to the Info Session with a vision and now they have started their business and are working them.  They took a chance on THEMSELVES, Invested in self and their dream and this Sunday we are going to celebrate that.  As their Instructor and Business Coach…I am proud and honored and am looking forward to your next steps!  This is JUST the beginning.

J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares Empowerment Charm School Week 1: Maintenance Of A Welcoming Home

September 1, 2018 by  
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Parents, looking at this picture…can you relate?  Young Ladies, looking at this picture…can you relate?

This Saturday we will be starting our NEW Empowerment Series discussing the theme: Maintenance Of A Welcoming Home!  For many of our girls, they are getting to the age where they are thinking of marriage and some are thinking of moving out.  However; are they truly ready for that step?  In the basic matters that MATTER, are they ready?  This and more will be discussed at our first class of this Empowerment Series this Saturday.  We are accepting new students!  Join us!

J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares The Muslimah Leadership Empowerment Series Week 4: Khawlah Bint Al Azwar

August 31, 2018 by  
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This week we will be learning about a woman that MANY of our young Muslimahs have never even heard of and that is Khawla Bint Al Azwar!  This was an AMAZING woman of Islam.  This week they will learn of the many gifts that Allah extended to her; some of which was the ability to articulate in the form of Poetry…but NOT like what we hear today.  We will learn of her bravery and her beautiful embodiment of loving for her sister what she loved for herself.

This week my co facilitator will be Manal Ahmed.

J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares Special Workshop Presents: Find Your RESOLVE In Islam: The Asiya (RA) Story

August 26, 2018 by  
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The theme of my workshop with the ladies is…Find Your Resolve In Islam: The Asiya (RA) Story!  In Shaa Allah (God Willing) I will share with the sisters the obstacles and challenges they WILL surely face as new Muslimahs, but how they can overcome them by Allah’s permission.  I will share and utilize Asiya’s story as a point of reference.  This discussion will be POWERFUL and engaging. Looking forward to helping my new Sisters In Islam.

J.E.S.S.I.C.A. Cares The Muslimah Leadership Empowerment Series Week 3: Khansa

August 24, 2018 by  
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In life we make sacrifices…some for good, some for bad!  The Woman of Islam that we will be discussing this week was the epitome of making sacrifices for all the right reasons and that was Khansa.  Was it an easy decision for her?  No, but well worth it.  We will learn of why when we make sacrifices for our creator…it is WELL worth it.  Our student Miley will be co facilitating with me this week.

Getting Emotional About Emotional Intelligence

August 23, 2018 by  
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“I can’t believe I said that.  What was I thinking?”

“I didn’t mean what I said, I only said that because I was angry.”

“When I get upset, I lose it and anything and anyone is liable to get it.”

Or how about…

“I can’t control my emotions; I just say what comes to my mind at the time no matter how bad it is.”

This is a clear sign of an individual who has not mastered themselves, their emotions; thus lacking Emotional Intelligence! You may ask, what is Emotional Intelligence?  Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

When one does not have Emotional Intelligence, it can damage personal and professional relationships as well as the relationship that matters the most and that is your Spiritual Relationship with your creator. However; on the contrary, for those who have mastered the ability to control their emotions…the positive impact is key to personal, professional and spiritual success.

There are two categories with respect to achieving Emotional Intelligence and that is:

Personal Skills and Competencies

Social Skills and Competencies

Personal Skills and Competencies

Self Awareness and Self Mastery

  1. When one is aware of self, one knows their triggers. When a person is aware of their triggers they can learn when to walk away before a situation escalates. This does take practice; however, if one wants to master Emotional Intelligence this is something that if done over time…can be a personal deficiency that one can overcome. If you know your trigger words, if you know what your body feels when a situation is getting out of hand then you can MASTER the art of walking away!

Self Regulation

  1. My mother used to say, “when you know who you are dealing with, you act accordingly.” In essence, you can adapt to certain individuals if you know how they operate. Knowing how one operates allows you to have an upper hand so that what once would have been a trigger is now your weapon of defense. You have taken the sting out of what could have been a potentially toxic situation by becoming desensitized to it due to being prepared.   This allows you to develop self control.


  1. When you achieve something that at one time you felt was impossible…i.e. Emotional Intelligence, it gives you motivation to continue that good behavior. You realize you are developing good character and self control which is a reason to feel motivated and inspired. It also supports the idea of commitment; commitment to continue this course of action.  This is truly transformational.

Social Skills and Competencies


  1. Hurt people; hurt people! When you can empathize with someone else then you can ignore certain behaviors. Our society promotes having to have the last word and not letting someone have a “one up” on you. In reality being able to walk away shows strength!  When you can put yourself in someone else’s shoes even in their darkest hour says much more about you then the person who is the oppressor.  This is also an opportunity to be a wayshower to those who have never seen what that looks like.  This brings life to the phrase, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”  Develop others while you are developing yourself.

Social Skills

When you master Emotional Intelligence it allows you to learn skills that for some they will never learn in a lifetime and that is Conflict Resolution and Collaboration and Cooperation. This also develops Leadership Skills.  This brings about an opportunity to strengthen your position and not your argument.  Articulate how you feel, not show it in a negative way.  This helps you to be the change agent.  As Ghandi said, “be the change you want to see in the world.”  There can be no conflict if you do not take part in it.

When you continue to strive to master Emotional Intelligence, you learn to manage and lessen negative relationships with others, yourself and your Lord. The negative impact that it has when you choose to give in at every comment or action made against you looks like this:

Say things that are hurtful vs. helpful: We have all said things that we wish once they have exited our mouths; it could be taken back. Words hurt, damage and can even kill.  Even if not physically which we know can happen; the internal damage to the soul can actually kill a person to the point of being in essence the Walking Dead.

Allow Shayton (Satan/Devil) to take control: When you don’t master yourself; someone else will. Our sworn enemy will use this as long as he sees this is a weakness within you.  Not having Self Control or Emotional Intelligence will cause you to do things that are not pleasing to our creator which will be something we will have to answer for eventually.  The absolute goal of the devil.  You would never follow the footsteps of an open enemy, so think about this each time you want to give in to your “emotions.”  Ask yourself, if I do or say this…who am I really following?

Oppressive to others: This is something that even God has made impermissible to himself. Although he is control of ALL creation, he never oppresses them and thus have commanded us not to as well.  Being oppressive to another one of God’s creation can and will only hurt YOU in the end.  Whether you believe in “you reap what you sow” or “karma”…either way, you will pay for that action, so be clear to make a good spiritual reputation with others and our Lord.

Damage Relationships: Ever realize after doing or saying something damaging to a friend, spouse or colleague…the relationship is never quite the same? When we fail to display Emotional Intelligence we damage relationships and at times we don’t have the opportunity to make it right ever again.

Personal Stress/Poor Health: When you allow yourself to be controlled by our open enemy and you are screaming, yelling and fighting it can cause heart complications and high blood pressure…all things that can cause tremendous health issues and worst; death. Is what that person said or did worth your very life?

Here are some tips to help overcome being reactive versus being proactive:

  • Pay attention to how you react/behave
  • Take ownership for your behavior
  • Acknowledge your emotional “triggers”
  • Healthy eating
  • Positive Thinking
  • LISTEN (Active Listening)
  • Avoid complaining/drama
  • Read Qur’an, Islamic Studies or Self Help Books, Listening to Motivational Lectures & Speakers
  • Surround yourself with others who are Emotionally Intelligent-Study their behaviors/responsesSo get EMOTIONAL about Emotional Intelligence so that it can motivate you towards positive change.


  • So in closing, we cannot simply pray for Emotional Intelligence…it is something that we have to also work towards in order to HONOR that prayer of wanting to be a better person. Allah (God) says that he does not change a condition within a people until they FIRST change it within themselves. In other words, once he sees the effort…he will make it easier for you.

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