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Be A Great Woman of Islam TODAY: Learn the Tricks of Shayton

December 1, 2016 by  
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This topic could not have come at a more appropriate time.

Make no mistake about it, Trump is in office by the Qadar of Allah and while we may not understand it YET…in Allah’s infinite wisdom this happened  and if not careful; Shayton can and will use it against you to lower your standards as a Muslimah and slave of Allah.  These things my Muslimahs are tricks of Shayton.  So let us review, the tricks of Shayton and FACE what isn’t working.  Meaning within ourselves so that Shayton cannot use it against us.  FACE what has you struggling because if you are struggling now…as prophesied when the minor and major signs start to appear THAT will not be the time when your IMAN will appear.  We will discuss 3 different tricks that Shayton uses and is going to use during this time:

1.) Denial: The definition of denial is a refusal to believe or accept.  How many of us are in denial right now that Shayton tricks us and that we keep falling for the same tricks.  For example, when I get out of school, I’ll wear my hijab!  It’s because of my friends or family that don’t cover is the reason why I don’t cover.  It’s not safe to wear hijab now!  Or the famous one…Allah knows what’s in my heart, he knows my struggle…Allah is most merciful.  Lastly, how many of you are in denial that this election is even a sign of the last days?  Allah makes things obligatory for us for a reason and what is obligatory is just that…a non negotiable.  If you can stand before your Lord on the day of Judgment with those excuses then I fear for you.  There are sisters dying in other countries to wear the crown you are so ready to discard.  There are our sisters in Islam like Khawlah, Maryam and Sumayyah who lived for the preservation of Islam, who lived for the honor in wearing hijab and died to be identified as a Muslim.  Which is the whole reason why Allah gave us, the women of Islam  the command to wear it…it is our duty and honor to represent this Ummah & these women!!!  Don’t allow your denial of the punishment of Allah for disobedience to keep you from owning it or in the time that we live.  We know when we’re on deen; there’s a good feel about it…but when we’re not, you know it; you feel it!  Don’t surpress it by the trick of Shyaton in the form of denial.  Don’t deny this deficiency in your worship to Allah.  OWN it and then ask Allah to remove that because its like that saying, if you lie to yourself enough that you will eventually believe it.  Don’t fool yourself right up until Judgment Day and have to face it then.  Work side by side with Allah to assist you.  It amazes me of how recognition in a thing and then decision making is so difficult even when it means your life.  We see this in drug addicts all the time; knowing that the drugs is destroying their life, yet cannot come to the logicial decision to leave it off.  Defending & justifying a bad situation is a sugar coated way of saying DENIAL.  We cannot afford to be in denial…Shayton is banking on it.

2.) Fear: The definition of fear is anxiety caused by real or possible danger, pain.  Notice this man (Trump) has not even addressed this country, hasn’t passed a bill and my timeline on Facebook was literally flooded with how it is permissible to take off our hijabs, moving to Canada, Africa and Saudi Arabia.  Listen close…there will come a time when we all are going to have to face the major signs of the end.  You living outside of the U.S. will not change that and until Allah takes our souls…we will be tested.  This is a GUARANTEE…Allah says do you think you will say you believe and not be tested?  The women before us didn’t take times of trials as a reason to dumb down their deen, they used this as a moment to stand firm side by side with the men of Islam.

Khawlah-Warrior

Khansa- Her children

Sumayyah-First martyr

Maryam-Modesty tested; she didn’t run

Asma-Preservation of the Prophet

Hafsah-Preserved the Qur’an

And this man gets elected and all that goes out the window?  Islam is what we need to be thinking of preserving.  Fear…is it real?  Yes, but Allah warns us to fear him and hime alone…THAT is Tawheed!  Shayton will use fear as a trick to shy from your honor in being a Muslimah.  Don’t allow him.  He wants your soul…your very hereafter.  Don’t allow fear of Allah’s creation to be used by Shayton against you.  Think of what Allah allowed to happen before and how his servants faired.  Example:

Musa (May Allah be pleased with him): Red Sea

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh): Quraysh

Believe in the Lord in which you serve.  This is an opportunity, not a moment to paralyze in fear.  So how do you do this???  This brings us to our last key to being aware of the tricks of Shayton in order to strive and be a great woman of Islam and that is:

3.) Ignorance: Learn your spiritual history!!!!  Learn this religion.  Be like that of Khadijah who was the first to accept Islam.  Read the signs.  Read in what times we are living in.  Learning this religion will assist in being able to READ the signs and allow you to be better equipped in how to deal with things as they arise versus running in fear of them.  Be like that of Aesha (RA) who learned so much with respect to Islam that she is known as one of if not the greatest scholar in Islam.  TAKE ACTION TODAY!!!  Seek what isn’t working in you today and take one thing at a time and with Allah’s help make the du’a that Allah allows you to see the tricks of Shayton and to fight against them.

I pray that you have found benefit in some of these key components in your journey and aspiration of finding your place in this Ummah and finding your contribution during these times so that In Shaa Allah you can stand before our Lord on the day of Judgment as one of the great women of Islam today!

Bridge the Gap: Sunnah Rather Than Later

October 4, 2016 by  
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Surah Al Hujurat Ayat 13

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into Nations and Tribes, that ye may know each other (Not that ye may despise each other).  Verily, the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you.  And Allah has full knowledge and is well-acquainted (with all things).

Surah Al Baqarah Ayat 213

Mankind was one single nation, and Allah sent Messengers with glad tidings and warnings; and with them he sent the book in truth, to judge between people in matters wherein they differed; but the people of the book, after the clear signs came to them, did not differ among themselves, except through selfish contumacy.  Allah by his grace guided the believers to the truth, concerning that wherein they differed.  For Allah guides whom he will to a path that is straight.

In the environment we live in today with Islamophobia running rampant, it is so vital that we adhere to the ayats forementioned.  Sadly, the issues we see in the Dunya with respect to race relations are plaguing our Ummah as well.  We have brothers and sisters due to being of different nationalities and cultures going as far as not even giving the Salaams to one another…the bare minimum of the right we owe to one another.  Some have gone to the extent of no longer attending a masjid due to race, in some cases preventing a masjid from having a qualified Imam because he was of a different race to not even wanting to stand next to one another in Salat.  This HAS to stop!

Allah chose that brother/sister to be a Muslim, just as he chose you.  Do you dare take issue with what Allah has decreed?  Clearly, if Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala chose that person to be guided, there is something about that individual worth getting to know don’t you think?  Instead of looking at our differences as a barrior, if we claim to be Muslims then let’s start with the religion of which we subscribe…Islam!  Islam means submission.  If we are truly submissive to the will of Allah then we adhere to his words in the Qur’an and follow the Sunnah in its totality, not like a buffet where you pick and choose what you like.  When accepting Islam, that is a condition of our Shahada.

So in doing so, in following the Qur’an let us disect the ayats mentioned at the onset of this blog.  Allah created different nations and tribes so that we can learn about one another and from eachother.  That whatever differences you may have AFTER the clear signs, we would no longer differ amongst one another.  Here Allah is clearly showing there is NO room, no place for racism in Islam and that what should bring us together before anything else is our faith…our Iman!  Do we not remember the profound hadith which states, ” None of you have Iman until you love for your brother (or sister) what you love for yourself.  Our very Iman is connected to wanting good for our fellow brothers/sisters and loving them for the pleasure of Allah.  This very act as it is connected to the root of our faith distinguishes us as a Muslim or as a BELIEVER!

Someone may ask, why do I need to get to know someone of a different nationality/culture who happens to be Muslim?  “There is no great benefit, I’m good.”  Oh, how wrong you are!  So let us look at the tangible benefits in this life that can be derived from all parties by following the ayats mentioned.  We will be taking it from the perspective of those who come from other countries…Muslim countries and from Muslims of the U.S.

Muslim Countries: How do Muslims from the U.S. Benefit?

  1. For those who are coming from Muslim countries, we can learn about the lifestyle one lives in those countries.  For example, livelihood is surrrounded around prayer.  Stores close up, people walking to the Masjid in order to pray and children literally carrying their parents on their backs to assist them in being able to pray; honoring their rights.  Restrooms in the foremat of the days of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).  For many born here in the U.S. we can only imagine what that looks like.  So the preservation of Islam in a way that we are not accustomed to can be part of the narrative.  In doing so, it may inspire someone who casually thought about making Umrah/Hajj to seriously consider it due to conversations had amongst his/her brother or sister.  Learning other cultures, traditions and food expands the human experience for one another.

American Muslims: How do Muslims from other countries benefit?

  1. For those born in Muslim countries, covering, modesty, minimum interactions with the opposite sex are the norm.  When coming to the U.S. it may be a culture shock to some and what once was not an issue for one with respect to their deen, is now one.  Such as covering and the issue of having a boyfriend or girlfriend.  The American born Muslims are used to being a “stranger” to those around them and can assist in helping their fellow brother or sister navigate through that transition.  Introduce them to organizations and conferences that can further assist in meeting other Muslims while maintaining their deen.  This will allow them to do good deeds together; studying Islam, Dawah work, community initiatives.

How is this not a win, win situation for all parties involved and the Ummah at large?  Disarm Shayton with his use of media to define us, let us follow the Sunnah where as Aesha (RA) says, our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was the walking Qur’an.  In speaking of the Sunnah, let us reflect on the last lecture of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and let us keep in mind at the time of giving this Khutbah, he knew death was eminent.  Think for a minute, if you knew death was near, what would be your thoughts?  Who would you want to reach?  What message would you want to relay?  What would be most important to you?  Notice what was most important to our beloved Prophet (pbuh) in his last lecture.  I will begin by starting as he did in asking you to lend me your ear.

THE LAST LECTURE

“O People, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and TAKE THESE WORDS TO THOSE WHO COULD NOT BE PRESENT HERE TODAY.


Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion
. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in small things.
O People, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as Sacred, so regard the life and property of every Muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your LORD, and that HE will indeed reckon your deeds. ALLAH has forbidden you to take usury (interest), therefore all interest obligation shall henceforth be waived. Your capital, however, is yours to keep. You will neither inflict nor suffer any inequity. Allah has Judged that there shall be no interest and that all the interest due to Abbas ibn ‘Abd’al Muttalib (Prophet’s uncle) shall henceforth be waived…

O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.

O People, listen to me in earnest, worship ALLAH, say your five daily prayers (Salah), fast during the month of Ramadan, and give your wealth in Zakat. Perform Hajj if you can afford to.

All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety (taqwa) and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.

Remember, one day you will appear before ALLAH and answer your deeds. So beware, do not stray from the path of righteousness after I am gone.

 

O People, NO PROPHET OR APOSTLE WILL COME AFTER ME AND NO NEW FAITH WILL BE BORN. Reason well, therefore, O People, and understand words which I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the QURAN and my example, the SUNNAH and if you follow these you will never go astray.

All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and may the last ones understand my words better than those who listen to me directly. Be my witness, O ALLAH, that I have conveyed your message to your people”.

Will your actions show that his messaage reached its destination?  Will you be amongst those who are striving to be an answer to his du’a?  Will you be the change agent in your community to champion tolerance, true brotherhood/sisterhood…one Ummah?

Striving Vs. Trying: Words Have POWER

November 25, 2015 by  
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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

How many times have we heard that statement?  Now ask yourself, how many times or have I ever truly reflected on that statement and the deep meaning behind it?

Words have POWER! It has power because when one hears something repetitively it has the ability to coerce your most inner thoughts, persuade and even control ones soul.  It has an impact on the individual hearing it; positive or negative.  Words although invisible can be worn on a human like a badge of honor and the behaviors that an individual displays are a direct reflection of what those words mean to them.

Every person has a vision, goal or aspiration for their life.  It could be a vision professionally, a goal for their marriage and even the level of spirituality they would like to attain and far too often with things associated to goals around ones professional, academic or personal life; one usually has a clear action plan or strategic course of action in order to achieve that goal.  Yet for the most important aspect of an individual’s life which is ones spirituality; the action plan is left to words such as “I’ve failed so many times, I’m not worthy:, “it’s too hard”, “I’m too weak” or the famous one…”I’ll try to have a closer relationship with my creator versus I’m STRIVING to have a closer relationship with my creator.  So what I would like to do at this time is to take a closer look at what the difference is between the two and when using them in the context of our spirituality; how much of a difference it can and does make.

Webster’s Dictionary:

Try: Make an attempt to do something.

Strive: Make great efforts; struggle or fight vigorously.

Clearly you can see the difference between the two.  The word “try” seems to mean or could mean one attempt as the dictionary does not define the word “attempt” in the plural.  On the other hand striving is depicted as a verb; something that requires more than one attempt with respect to action as it says to fight vigorously for something and is described as a plural when it uses the word “efforts.”  So just in using the word strive versus try when thinking of our relationship with Allah, it shows that in our attempt to draw closer to our creator it requires ACTION(s) on our part, just not a thought or hope of doing so.  Understanding the meaning(s) of words provides us the power behind them; thus influencing our responses to them.

In the Qur’an it is written:

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful

Did I not charge you, O children of Adam! That you should not serve the Shaitan?  Surely he is your open enemy, and that you should serve me; this is the right way.  And certainly he led astray numerous people from among you.  What! Could you not understand?  This is the hell with which you were threatened.

When something or someone threatens your well being, your reaction is to fight; should that not be more so your resolve when seeking to obtain the most important thing; our relationship and approval of our creator, knowing that we have an open enemy looking to deter us from this course of action?  We can feel the effects when constantly surrounded amongst negativity and our immediate reaction to it is to get as far away from it as possible.  Do we not hold those same sentiments when we have negative or doubtful self talk?  Understanding that words have an influence on us; let us make a commitment to no longer use the word “try” let us start today by utilizing the word strive in order for the body to follow in our journey of refining, purifying and reintroducing a better version of ourselves.

When you have that resolve along with our dua’s to Allah, we can further feel empowered with the words of Allah when he said, “Take one step towards me, I will take ten steps towards you.  Walk towards me, I will run towards you.”

Again, illustrating that action is required on our part.  Every act first starts as a thought so we need to align our thoughts and dua’s in order to accomplish that action by using words that support the ultimate goal.  I once heard someone say something that I felt was so powerful and that was….”God loves you for who you are, but rewards you for what you do.”  (That recurring fight; the effort)

Yes, do we fall short each day?  Of course, we are imperfect beings; however, each day, each salat, each du’a is an opportunity to dust yourself off and try again.  THAT is the essence of striving versus JUST trying.   

Domestic Violence: Hijab Is Not A Covering For Abuse!

October 21, 2015 by  
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As many of you may or may not be aware; October represents Domestic Violence Awareness Month. However, with respect to the Muslim community, this topic is covered as if in it of itself was covered with a hijab. So let’s unveil and talk!!!

FACTS:

1. 10% of Muslim women experience physical violence which is the same as the National Average in the United States!

2. Islam PROHIBITS oppression of any kind!

MISCONCEPTION:

1. Islam condones domestic violence!

2. Muslim women are mere objects for their husbands and the men can do with them as they please!

3. Islam is a violent religion!

4. Muslim men are oppressive to its women!

In my experience with working with several organizations that support victims of Domestic Violence; a woman’s religion is rarely if ever a topic of discussion during the initial interview process. However, for Muslim women in SOME instances her religion and misconceptions of it plays a role in how she is treated the minute she walks through the door when seeking help! THAT HAS TO STOP!!!

Many conceive that abuse in the Muslim community is an “Islamic” or religious issue and that could not be furthest from the truth. Islam under no uncertain terms condones the oppression of another; especially the women of Islam. In fact, more than any other religion; Islam guarantees more rights to women. This guidance is provided in the Qu’ran, and any form of oppression is prohibited (haram). Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be Upon Him) spoke of the treatment of women: 

  • Be kind with the soft and gentle one (female) 
  • The most perfect of the believers in faith are the best of them in morals. And the best amongst them are those who are best to their wives.

So one may ask, if that is the stand that Islam takes, how does Domestic Violence exist in the Muslim Community? Let us be clear, just as you see this epidemic in the Christian community, Jewish community and Catholic community, it will surely exist in the Muslim community because what we ALL share and have in common is “imperfection.” Through the flaws derived from imperfection, it breeds the opening for Domestic Violence. Islam has another vice that supports the misconceptions of Islam and it being a violent religion.

ISIS, Al-Quada and the Taliban all play a role in the misconception. Domestic Violence has everything to do with the fact that it is a LEARNED behavior and lack of education.  The fact that Muslim women who are abused is more about a cultural matter masked under the umbrella of Islam. Here are some additional facts that support this:

CULTURE: 

  1. 92% of women in Afghanistan feel that a husband is justified in beating them. 82% of these women have very little to no education. 
  2. 54% of women in India feel that a husband is justified in beating them.  62% of the women in India have very little to no education. 
  3. 36% of women in Bangladesh feel that a husband is justified in beating them. 26% of these women have very little to no education.

Let me point out, these are NOT statistics just from Muslim women, it was of the women of that area…period. Even in the United States, 80-83% of those involved in Domestic Violence are recipients of some form of governmental assistance and do not either have a high school diploma or higher education. So lack of education perpetuates a woman (Muslim or otherwise)into feeling “trapped” and that she does not have the skills necessary to take care of herself or any children she may have if she chose to leave.

I write this to implore those who work with victims of Domestic Violence, that when a Muslim woman comes through the doors of your organization for aid, resources and support; please keep in mind…your organization may not only be her last resort, but her ONLY resort. Don’t be another form of abuse, welcome her, show her the compassion you would show any other victim with the knowledge that when a woman leaves she is at her most danger of being KILLED. Show her you are there for her and live the mission of what your organization represents. Remembering, her hijab is a covering and a representation of her modesty, NOT a covering of her abuse.

Social Media: Public Diary or Nah?

May 19, 2015 by  
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Social Media: Public Diary or Nah?

“Social Media is changing the way we communicate and the way we are perceived, both positively and negatively.  Every time you post a photo, or update your status, you are contributing to your own digital footprint and personal brand.”     – Amy Jo Martin

Let’s take a closer look at the latter part of the quote referenced above; “you are contributing to your own digital footprint and personal brand.”  While you may feel that you are just venting, blowing off steam or posting your audition photographs for America’s Top Model, in essence what you are really doing is creating a virtual reputation of oneself.  Social Media is a great tool in order to connect with family and friends and if you are a professional; a great venue to promote your business.

Unfortunately, too often today young ladies are utilizing their social media sites as their personal diary and a mirror for all to see of their precious jewel…their bodies; without truly knowing the consequences of such actions.  Here is a glimpse of that forgotten step. 

According to Career Builder, here are a few powerful statistics:

Those who have been denied employment:

  • 46% posted provocative and inappropriate pictures or information

  • 41% posted about drinking/drugs

  • 32% Poor communication skills (Spelling, grammar & foul language)

Those who have been hired employment:

  • 46% got a good feel for the candidates personality and social media presence

  • 43% Conveyed a professional image

  • 40% Communication skills (Spelling, grammar & absence of foul language)

Let’s be clear, what we post are not only for “friends” or “followers” to read and see, but it is a lense for potential employers and college recruiters to determine if the person on the application is not just smoke and mirrors.  How sad it would be for one to lose out on an opportunity to fulfill their dream because of a moment of frustration shared on social media or a photo taken as a misguided teen?

Please do not misunderstand me, I am a true believer of authenticity and with that being said, I would dare ask; would you bare your soul & secrets to a stranger?  How many of your followers do you truly know personally?  NO, social media is not and was never intended to be one’s public diary.  With all that we do, we have to think before we type, think before we post that photo.  There is a bigger picture to consider and that is your FUTURE.

Set a positive image of yourself in order to reap positive results!

 

 

 

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