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Domestic Violence Awareness Month: B.O.S.S. In The Workplace

October 17, 2017 by  
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Bringing, Optimism back to Secure, Stability in the Workplace

Statistics from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:

  • In the United States, twenty people every minute are victims of physical violence by a partner.
  • In a typical day, Domestic Violence hotlines take more than 20,000 calls.
  • A study of homicides including Domestic Violence revealed that 20% of the time the murder victim is NOT the Domestic Violence victim, but instead family members, friends, co workers, neighbors and bystanders.

With statistics such as those aforementioned, it would be impossible to think as an Entrepreneur, Manager or Executive Director that this epidemic will not touch your workplace in some way.  Either one of your employees, volunteers or Board Members may be living with Domestic Violence directly or they are close to someone who is and due to that fact…you will have to address this issue at some point.  Sooner rather than later.

I am a firm believer in being proactive versus reactive.  As an Entrepreneur or Executive Director, if you asked your employees directly if they were a victim of Domestic Violence; your response would most likely be NO.  However; creating an environment that encourages, empowers and supports will allow employees to seek the needed help while for once holding their dignity.

In order to address an issue, one has to become informed.  What are the signs that one of your staff members may be living under abusive circumstances.  What does that look like?  Let’s take a look:

  • Visible/Physical Injuries
  • Depression
  • Excessive Absenteeism/Tardiness
  • Isolation from Co workers
  • Fear upon receiving a call or visit from partner
  • Anxiety at the close of the day
  • Lack of Concentration

Now an employer may think…this is a personal problem; this is none of my business!  As long as they do their job, I will utilize the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy.  You may want to reevaluate that thought process once you see the direct effects it may have on your company/organization:

  • Domestic Violence victims lose 8 million paid days of work each year
  • Domestic Violence impact on businesses exceeds 8.3 billion a year, which includes 727.8 million for lost productivity.

As a good employer, you would be remiss to not address this.  So how can your company combat this epidemic?  Here are a few ideas:

*Protect Their Confidentiality: Upon being made aware that an employee is a victim of Domestic Violence; maintaining confidentiality regarding their co workers will ensure that that employee will continue to confide in you so that you can redirect them to the proper resources to assist.  In their personal environment, trust is something that is lacking so providing them a space to feel that they can trust again is the first step to healing.

*You Are Not The Expert: Acknowledging that while you may wear many hats; being a Domestic Violence expert may not be one of them.  Understanding that someone who chooses to leave an abusive relationship is at their most danger.  This will place the importance of a strategic action plan and that executing that to be of benefit of all parties involved, should include the experts. Referring them to Domestic Violence Shelters, allowing them to make the calls to these various support groups at the workplace will be beneficial to securing safety while seeking help.  If your company has an Employee Assistance Program, refer them to it.  This may be of much benefit as well. 

*Flexibility: Knowing that this may be an issue that is beyond an employees control, being flexible with regard to tardiness or absenteeism within reason may help.  Having some form of income may be one of the ways in which this employee will utilize as their “escape plan” so taking that away will assist in keeping the victim as such…a victim.  Working with the employee regarding their schedule on a temporary basis can make all the difference in helping that person maintain hope.

*Staff Training: Without making mention of the person in order to protect their confidentiality, having a staff meeting during Domestic Violence Awareness Month and periodically will allow co workers to become more aware of such a delicate topic and more sympathetic to those they may feel are a victim to it; thus disarming a hostile environment.  This may also allow employees to assist their friends/family of whom they know are victims of Domestic Violence with the knowledge you provide in the workplace.  This empowers all involved.  It sends a message to all that as their B.O.S.S. you truly care and are there for them.  Knowledge is power.  Invite respresentatives of reputable Non Profits that support this cause to speak to your employees. 

Developing a staff of longevity, empowering your staff beyond the paycheck is showing them that you care and is invaluable.  Domestic Violence is a slow death of self esteem, work productivity and a killer to a healthy work community and social community at large.  It takes a village to support those who may not be in a position to fight for themselves. Create an environment of a healthy, supportive and empowering workplace.  

Healthy Self Esteem and Higher Education: Is There a Link?

June 7, 2017 by  
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Healthy Self Esteem and Higher Education: Is There a Link?

I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ

How important such a quote/saying can mean to a child when hearing this from a parent. Most children if not all want to please their parents and make them proud.  This is also a desire as children become young adults.  Statistics have proven that with the right parent involvement, students’ academic achievements will and have improved, self esteem increases, and motivation to do better becomes much more evident.

While getting an education is extremely important, quotes like the one above instill in our children the belief that they have the ability to BE whatever it is they desire, ACHIEVE the grades they desire and work towards and that they possess all that is necessary to make their dreams come true. This will enable a child to have the motivation to press on even in the face of difficult classes and even teachers.

One may think my child does not have a self esteem issue; my child is confident in themselves, I do not need to do more than what I am doing, I just wish my child would achieve higher grades and live up to their full potential. Well, let’s take a closer look at the facts of what our children may be thinking and yet never utter aloud:

According to Real Girls, Real Pressure: A National Report on the State of Self-Esteem, commissioned by the Dove Self-Esteem Fund in 2008:

  • Seven in ten girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members
  • 62% of all girls feel insecure or not sure of themselves
  • More than half (57%) of all girls say they don’t always tell their parents certain things about them because they don’t want them to think badly of them
  • The top wish among all girls surveyed, is for their parents to communicate better with them, which includes more frequent and open conversations about what is happening in their own lives
  • 78% of girls with low self-esteem admit that it is hard to feel good in school when you do not feel good about how you look (compared to 54% of girls with high self-esteem)

These statistics I share with you is in no way an attempt to make you feel that all is lost in our youths and that there is nothing that can be done as parents; however as we all know, knowledge is power and by knowing the facts of this common yet rarely discussed topic, as parents you can better equip yourself in assisting your child in not becoming a statistic.

Parents’ words and actions play a critical role in fostering positive self-esteem in young ladies and in young men and it is not as hard as one may think. Simply applying a few simple techniques and habits will help tremendously in boosting your child’s self esteem and self worth and by doing so will boost their educational experience and ultimately their grades.

Here are 6 Easy Tips in Helping Increase Your Child’s Self Esteem/Self Worth:

  1. On Monday mornings of each week, Google an inspirational and motivating quote on self esteem and attach it to the refrigerator so that your child will be reminded each time they visit the refrigerator. If your child does not live with you, text it to them each Monday morning ending each inspirational quote with a personal word of encouragement from you the parent; such as, I know you can do it, I’m so proud of what you have accomplished, Keep up the great work.
  2. Take time once a month or when their home on a break to take your child out, just the two of you either out to breakfast/lunch or dinner at their favorite restaurant. This allows you to have an open line of communication; allowing you to ask those questions that maybe they would not feel comfortable answering amongst siblings or other family members. You will be amazed at what your child will share with you when they feel that you want to spend quality time with them.
  3. Incorporate something like a “Book Club”. The “Book Club” allows you to share a Self Improvement book with one another. This helps in opening positive dialogue amongst the two about the chapters you agree to read and it encourages your child to embrace positive ways in which to view themselves. Books that I recommend are the following: Developing the Leader Within You by John C. Maxwell, The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale, Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins and The Success Principles by Jack Canfield.
  4. Quarterly, find family members and close friends to share with you what they admire about your child and share it with them. This allows them to see how they are truly being perceived by those who know them best; thus shifting negative thoughts they may be holding inside to positive ones.
  5. Annually, host a family “Goal” Dinner. Each family member participating in the dinner will share what their future goals are; your child will share their educational goals. Each family member, i.e. sister, brother, father or mother is then assigned as an accountability partner. This family member will ensure that their loved one will keep focus and assist in minimizing distractions, remind them to keep their eyes on the prize of graduating with their degree, achieving a certain GPA or stepping out of their comfort zone and joining a club on campus or fraternity/sorority. Each year thereafter, part of the dinner will be to celebrate such accomplishments and share new goals for each upcoming year.
  6. Sharing a motivational video from You Tube on either their Facebook page or directly to their email.

Consistently practicing these tips and staying committed to them will guarantee a change in your child’s self image to one of greatness. I would like to share with you my personal story. I am a mother of three children, one twenty two, one twenty and my youngest, eighteen. My oldest child from the time he was six years old, was bullied at school. Not only from his peers, but by his teachers as well and it took a tremendous toll on his self esteem. I saw my vibrant child become introverted and isolated from his peers. I encouraged him to talk to me during one of our one on one times with one another at his favorite restaurant…Red Lobster. There is where he began to tell me what was happening to him and how he was viewing himself. In many ways I wish I never had to hear it as no parent likes to see their child in pain, but at the same time I was happy he told me because now I knew what was in his heart and in knowing so, I could then begin to assist in the healing process. I applied the same principles and tips that I share with you today and his self esteem has improved dramatically. After being told that he would never learn to read by his first grade teacher to his fifth grade teacher telling him she didn’t like him because he was different from the other children, my son accomplished graduating with honors and is the CEO of his new comic book company; Fearless Fantasy Ink. The journey I shared with my son and the results is not something that happened and changed over night; however, with as I mentioned before…CONSISTENCY, you too will see a shift and one for the better with your child.

In conclusion, I would like to leave you with one last quote:

The difference between school and life? In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson. Tom Bodett

Obtaining good grades will assist in graduating from college, obtaining a healthy sense of self worth will assist in graduating in this thing we call life. As parents we can assist our children in mastering the ability to obtain and more importantly…maintain a healthy sense of self worth and self esteem.  

Be A Great Woman of Islam TODAY: Learn the Tricks of Shayton

December 1, 2016 by  
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This topic could not have come at a more appropriate time.

Make no mistake about it, Trump is in office by the Qadar of Allah and while we may not understand it YET…in Allah’s infinite wisdom this happened  and if not careful; Shayton can and will use it against you to lower your standards as a Muslimah and slave of Allah.  These things my Muslimahs are tricks of Shayton.  So let us review, the tricks of Shayton and FACE what isn’t working.  Meaning within ourselves so that Shayton cannot use it against us.  FACE what has you struggling because if you are struggling now…as prophesied when the minor and major signs start to appear THAT will not be the time when your IMAN will appear.  We will discuss 3 different tricks that Shayton uses and is going to use during this time:

1.) Denial: The definition of denial is a refusal to believe or accept.  How many of us are in denial right now that Shayton tricks us and that we keep falling for the same tricks.  For example, when I get out of school, I’ll wear my hijab!  It’s because of my friends or family that don’t cover is the reason why I don’t cover.  It’s not safe to wear hijab now!  Or the famous one…Allah knows what’s in my heart, he knows my struggle…Allah is most merciful.  Lastly, how many of you are in denial that this election is even a sign of the last days?  Allah makes things obligatory for us for a reason and what is obligatory is just that…a non negotiable.  If you can stand before your Lord on the day of Judgment with those excuses then I fear for you.  There are sisters dying in other countries to wear the crown you are so ready to discard.  There are our sisters in Islam like Khawlah, Maryam and Sumayyah who lived for the preservation of Islam, who lived for the honor in wearing hijab and died to be identified as a Muslim.  Which is the whole reason why Allah gave us, the women of Islam  the command to wear it…it is our duty and honor to represent this Ummah & these women!!!  Don’t allow your denial of the punishment of Allah for disobedience to keep you from owning it or in the time that we live.  We know when we’re on deen; there’s a good feel about it…but when we’re not, you know it; you feel it!  Don’t surpress it by the trick of Shyaton in the form of denial.  Don’t deny this deficiency in your worship to Allah.  OWN it and then ask Allah to remove that because its like that saying, if you lie to yourself enough that you will eventually believe it.  Don’t fool yourself right up until Judgment Day and have to face it then.  Work side by side with Allah to assist you.  It amazes me of how recognition in a thing and then decision making is so difficult even when it means your life.  We see this in drug addicts all the time; knowing that the drugs is destroying their life, yet cannot come to the logicial decision to leave it off.  Defending & justifying a bad situation is a sugar coated way of saying DENIAL.  We cannot afford to be in denial…Shayton is banking on it.

2.) Fear: The definition of fear is anxiety caused by real or possible danger, pain.  Notice this man (Trump) has not even addressed this country, hasn’t passed a bill and my timeline on Facebook was literally flooded with how it is permissible to take off our hijabs, moving to Canada, Africa and Saudi Arabia.  Listen close…there will come a time when we all are going to have to face the major signs of the end.  You living outside of the U.S. will not change that and until Allah takes our souls…we will be tested.  This is a GUARANTEE…Allah says do you think you will say you believe and not be tested?  The women before us didn’t take times of trials as a reason to dumb down their deen, they used this as a moment to stand firm side by side with the men of Islam.

Khawlah-Warrior

Khansa- Her children

Sumayyah-First martyr

Maryam-Modesty tested; she didn’t run

Asma-Preservation of the Prophet

Hafsah-Preserved the Qur’an

And this man gets elected and all that goes out the window?  Islam is what we need to be thinking of preserving.  Fear…is it real?  Yes, but Allah warns us to fear him and hime alone…THAT is Tawheed!  Shayton will use fear as a trick to shy from your honor in being a Muslimah.  Don’t allow him.  He wants your soul…your very hereafter.  Don’t allow fear of Allah’s creation to be used by Shayton against you.  Think of what Allah allowed to happen before and how his servants faired.  Example:

Musa (May Allah be pleased with him): Red Sea

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh): Quraysh

Believe in the Lord in which you serve.  This is an opportunity, not a moment to paralyze in fear.  So how do you do this???  This brings us to our last key to being aware of the tricks of Shayton in order to strive and be a great woman of Islam and that is:

3.) Ignorance: Learn your spiritual history!!!!  Learn this religion.  Be like that of Khadijah who was the first to accept Islam.  Read the signs.  Read in what times we are living in.  Learning this religion will assist in being able to READ the signs and allow you to be better equipped in how to deal with things as they arise versus running in fear of them.  Be like that of Aesha (RA) who learned so much with respect to Islam that she is known as one of if not the greatest scholar in Islam.  TAKE ACTION TODAY!!!  Seek what isn’t working in you today and take one thing at a time and with Allah’s help make the du’a that Allah allows you to see the tricks of Shayton and to fight against them.

I pray that you have found benefit in some of these key components in your journey and aspiration of finding your place in this Ummah and finding your contribution during these times so that In Shaa Allah you can stand before our Lord on the day of Judgment as one of the great women of Islam today!

Bridge the Gap: Sunnah Rather Than Later

October 4, 2016 by  
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Surah Al Hujurat Ayat 13

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into Nations and Tribes, that ye may know each other (Not that ye may despise each other).  Verily, the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you.  And Allah has full knowledge and is well-acquainted (with all things).

Surah Al Baqarah Ayat 213

Mankind was one single nation, and Allah sent Messengers with glad tidings and warnings; and with them he sent the book in truth, to judge between people in matters wherein they differed; but the people of the book, after the clear signs came to them, did not differ among themselves, except through selfish contumacy.  Allah by his grace guided the believers to the truth, concerning that wherein they differed.  For Allah guides whom he will to a path that is straight.

In the environment we live in today with Islamophobia running rampant, it is so vital that we adhere to the ayats forementioned.  Sadly, the issues we see in the Dunya with respect to race relations are plaguing our Ummah as well.  We have brothers and sisters due to being of different nationalities and cultures going as far as not even giving the Salaams to one another…the bare minimum of the right we owe to one another.  Some have gone to the extent of no longer attending a masjid due to race, in some cases preventing a masjid from having a qualified Imam because he was of a different race to not even wanting to stand next to one another in Salat.  This HAS to stop!

Allah chose that brother/sister to be a Muslim, just as he chose you.  Do you dare take issue with what Allah has decreed?  Clearly, if Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala chose that person to be guided, there is something about that individual worth getting to know don’t you think?  Instead of looking at our differences as a barrior, if we claim to be Muslims then let’s start with the religion of which we subscribe…Islam!  Islam means submission.  If we are truly submissive to the will of Allah then we adhere to his words in the Qur’an and follow the Sunnah in its totality, not like a buffet where you pick and choose what you like.  When accepting Islam, that is a condition of our Shahada.

So in doing so, in following the Qur’an let us disect the ayats mentioned at the onset of this blog.  Allah created different nations and tribes so that we can learn about one another and from eachother.  That whatever differences you may have AFTER the clear signs, we would no longer differ amongst one another.  Here Allah is clearly showing there is NO room, no place for racism in Islam and that what should bring us together before anything else is our faith…our Iman!  Do we not remember the profound hadith which states, ” None of you have Iman until you love for your brother (or sister) what you love for yourself.  Our very Iman is connected to wanting good for our fellow brothers/sisters and loving them for the pleasure of Allah.  This very act as it is connected to the root of our faith distinguishes us as a Muslim or as a BELIEVER!

Someone may ask, why do I need to get to know someone of a different nationality/culture who happens to be Muslim?  “There is no great benefit, I’m good.”  Oh, how wrong you are!  So let us look at the tangible benefits in this life that can be derived from all parties by following the ayats mentioned.  We will be taking it from the perspective of those who come from other countries…Muslim countries and from Muslims of the U.S.

Muslim Countries: How do Muslims from the U.S. Benefit?

  1. For those who are coming from Muslim countries, we can learn about the lifestyle one lives in those countries.  For example, livelihood is surrrounded around prayer.  Stores close up, people walking to the Masjid in order to pray and children literally carrying their parents on their backs to assist them in being able to pray; honoring their rights.  Restrooms in the foremat of the days of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).  For many born here in the U.S. we can only imagine what that looks like.  So the preservation of Islam in a way that we are not accustomed to can be part of the narrative.  In doing so, it may inspire someone who casually thought about making Umrah/Hajj to seriously consider it due to conversations had amongst his/her brother or sister.  Learning other cultures, traditions and food expands the human experience for one another.

American Muslims: How do Muslims from other countries benefit?

  1. For those born in Muslim countries, covering, modesty, minimum interactions with the opposite sex are the norm.  When coming to the U.S. it may be a culture shock to some and what once was not an issue for one with respect to their deen, is now one.  Such as covering and the issue of having a boyfriend or girlfriend.  The American born Muslims are used to being a “stranger” to those around them and can assist in helping their fellow brother or sister navigate through that transition.  Introduce them to organizations and conferences that can further assist in meeting other Muslims while maintaining their deen.  This will allow them to do good deeds together; studying Islam, Dawah work, community initiatives.

How is this not a win, win situation for all parties involved and the Ummah at large?  Disarm Shayton with his use of media to define us, let us follow the Sunnah where as Aesha (RA) says, our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was the walking Qur’an.  In speaking of the Sunnah, let us reflect on the last lecture of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and let us keep in mind at the time of giving this Khutbah, he knew death was eminent.  Think for a minute, if you knew death was near, what would be your thoughts?  Who would you want to reach?  What message would you want to relay?  What would be most important to you?  Notice what was most important to our beloved Prophet (pbuh) in his last lecture.  I will begin by starting as he did in asking you to lend me your ear.

THE LAST LECTURE

“O People, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and TAKE THESE WORDS TO THOSE WHO COULD NOT BE PRESENT HERE TODAY.


Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion
. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in small things.
O People, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as Sacred, so regard the life and property of every Muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your LORD, and that HE will indeed reckon your deeds. ALLAH has forbidden you to take usury (interest), therefore all interest obligation shall henceforth be waived. Your capital, however, is yours to keep. You will neither inflict nor suffer any inequity. Allah has Judged that there shall be no interest and that all the interest due to Abbas ibn ‘Abd’al Muttalib (Prophet’s uncle) shall henceforth be waived…

O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.

O People, listen to me in earnest, worship ALLAH, say your five daily prayers (Salah), fast during the month of Ramadan, and give your wealth in Zakat. Perform Hajj if you can afford to.

All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety (taqwa) and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.

Remember, one day you will appear before ALLAH and answer your deeds. So beware, do not stray from the path of righteousness after I am gone.

 

O People, NO PROPHET OR APOSTLE WILL COME AFTER ME AND NO NEW FAITH WILL BE BORN. Reason well, therefore, O People, and understand words which I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the QURAN and my example, the SUNNAH and if you follow these you will never go astray.

All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and may the last ones understand my words better than those who listen to me directly. Be my witness, O ALLAH, that I have conveyed your message to your people”.

Will your actions show that his messaage reached its destination?  Will you be amongst those who are striving to be an answer to his du’a?  Will you be the change agent in your community to champion tolerance, true brotherhood/sisterhood…one Ummah?

Striving Vs. Trying: Words Have POWER

November 25, 2015 by  
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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

How many times have we heard that statement?  Now ask yourself, how many times or have I ever truly reflected on that statement and the deep meaning behind it?

Words have POWER! It has power because when one hears something repetitively it has the ability to coerce your most inner thoughts, persuade and even control ones soul.  It has an impact on the individual hearing it; positive or negative.  Words although invisible can be worn on a human like a badge of honor and the behaviors that an individual displays are a direct reflection of what those words mean to them.

Every person has a vision, goal or aspiration for their life.  It could be a vision professionally, a goal for their marriage and even the level of spirituality they would like to attain and far too often with things associated to goals around ones professional, academic or personal life; one usually has a clear action plan or strategic course of action in order to achieve that goal.  Yet for the most important aspect of an individual’s life which is ones spirituality; the action plan is left to words such as “I’ve failed so many times, I’m not worthy:, “it’s too hard”, “I’m too weak” or the famous one…”I’ll try to have a closer relationship with my creator versus I’m STRIVING to have a closer relationship with my creator.  So what I would like to do at this time is to take a closer look at what the difference is between the two and when using them in the context of our spirituality; how much of a difference it can and does make.

Webster’s Dictionary:

Try: Make an attempt to do something.

Strive: Make great efforts; struggle or fight vigorously.

Clearly you can see the difference between the two.  The word “try” seems to mean or could mean one attempt as the dictionary does not define the word “attempt” in the plural.  On the other hand striving is depicted as a verb; something that requires more than one attempt with respect to action as it says to fight vigorously for something and is described as a plural when it uses the word “efforts.”  So just in using the word strive versus try when thinking of our relationship with Allah, it shows that in our attempt to draw closer to our creator it requires ACTION(s) on our part, just not a thought or hope of doing so.  Understanding the meaning(s) of words provides us the power behind them; thus influencing our responses to them.

In the Qur’an it is written:

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful

Did I not charge you, O children of Adam! That you should not serve the Shaitan?  Surely he is your open enemy, and that you should serve me; this is the right way.  And certainly he led astray numerous people from among you.  What! Could you not understand?  This is the hell with which you were threatened.

When something or someone threatens your well being, your reaction is to fight; should that not be more so your resolve when seeking to obtain the most important thing; our relationship and approval of our creator, knowing that we have an open enemy looking to deter us from this course of action?  We can feel the effects when constantly surrounded amongst negativity and our immediate reaction to it is to get as far away from it as possible.  Do we not hold those same sentiments when we have negative or doubtful self talk?  Understanding that words have an influence on us; let us make a commitment to no longer use the word “try” let us start today by utilizing the word strive in order for the body to follow in our journey of refining, purifying and reintroducing a better version of ourselves.

When you have that resolve along with our dua’s to Allah, we can further feel empowered with the words of Allah when he said, “Take one step towards me, I will take ten steps towards you.  Walk towards me, I will run towards you.”

Again, illustrating that action is required on our part.  Every act first starts as a thought so we need to align our thoughts and dua’s in order to accomplish that action by using words that support the ultimate goal.  I once heard someone say something that I felt was so powerful and that was….”God loves you for who you are, but rewards you for what you do.”  (That recurring fight; the effort)

Yes, do we fall short each day?  Of course, we are imperfect beings; however, each day, each salat, each du’a is an opportunity to dust yourself off and try again.  THAT is the essence of striving versus JUST trying.   

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